Sunday, December 4, 2011

False hope

Another Sunday. Still trying my best to take care of the cat...she still hasn't decided to eat on her own. If she doesn't change her mind, there's really not much I can do. I feel horrible about it. It may totally be a coincidence that she got sick the day I left for vacation. I have no idea. What I do know is that I left, she stopped eating, and now, unless she starts again, I'm going to have to make a decision about whether or not to end her suffering. I know a 'real' man would probably be able to do that, for the good of cat and all that, but it's a decision I will struggle with mightily.

That didn't help me get much sleep last night. I also spent a large portion of time just trying to figure out where in the hell I'm going. I come off as much more pessimistic as I really am...that's not to say that I'm not, just that I'm much more hopeful than I let on. I try not to be. If expectations are the main cause of disappointment in my life, false hope is a close second. I've faced it all the time because I let my imagination get away from me. Someone calls about a possible job, and I'm dreaming of the new place before I've even had an interview...only for them to not even call and schedule one. I meet someone new, and I'm thinking of what our relationship is going to be like...and she's not even interested. My kitty takes a bite of food on her own, and I'm thinking of how I'm going to discuss the close call down the road...only for her to refuse to take a second bite.

These aren't really 'expectations', in that I have no real feeling that they're going to happen. I am realistic. But they can be hopes that I let run away with me. And it's hard not to feel that little twinge of excitement when thinking about them. Another problem solved. Then, the 'rational' part takes over, and I feel the disappointment just a strongly as if it was an expectation that didn't come to pass. Not a damn thing has changed in the five minutes between those thoughts...just my head screwing with me. It can be frustrating when you are your own worst enemy.

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