I like to read, I like lists and I like to laugh, so everyday I visit Cracked.com. Today, there was an article about how Hollywood is leading people astray concerning relationships. Taken with some of my previous comments, it made me think a bit.
Hollywood basically presents two major themes in the romantic comedy. The first is that there is that by changing everything about yourself, you can win the boy/girl of your dreams. You can see this in the example Cracked gave, "Knocked Up." By getting a job, not hanging with his friends, etc., Seth Rogen was able to win the girl. Of course, there's a good chance that he'll resent the hell out of her later, but still.
The second theme is that there is someone out there that is perfect for you, without you changing a thing. You can see this in "How I Met Your Mother." Ted fails in relationship after relationship, but the premise is that he'll find someone that's perfect for him. This is the one that got me thinking.
I said in an earlier post something to the effect that while I'm not everyone's cup of tea, there's someone out there who's my perfect match. That comes across like I'm falling for that second theme...that I won't have to change anything, that someone will fall in lap and we'll live happily ever after. That is unrealistic and foolish.
OF COURSE, I'll have to change. So will she. We wouldn't be single if we had everything figured out. I don't believe that any two human beings, especially people at my age, are going to fit together perfectly without compromise. It just doesn't work that way. I'm also smart enough, and stubborn enough, to know that I'll never be able to live under the first theme, either. The key, then, is to find that person who I can be with where we both make minor changes in order to get along, but don't have to change everything. Now THAT would be 'perfect.'
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